Kink.com's pre-Pride party "Pride at the Armory: Prison of Love" on Sat/28 promises to create the "world's largest megaclub prison yard" as a backdrop for the festivities. However, this party is doing more than raising the roof — it's raising concerns about incarceration rates and prison assaults of LGBTQ peoples. Critics argue that the party fetishizes sexual assault in prisons.
The argument is that the Prison of Love theme is turning sexual assault in prisons into a commodity. With tickets ranging from $50 to $175, there's definitely something being sold. Since the party can be seen as selling BDSM and prison fantasies, critics worry that it condones prison rape and makes it seem sexy. That's causing an uproar in the LGBTQ community, especially since statistics show that being LGBTQ is a main risk factor of prison rape.
According to the National Center for Transgender Equality, transgender adult inmates are sexually abused 13 times more often than other inmates and nearly 1 in 6 transgender people have been incarcerated at some point in their lives. The US Department of Justice reports that juvenile LGBTQ prisoners report sexual assault 12 times more often than straight youths. And that's just what's reported.
The BoycottSFPride letter posted on Tumblr criticizes the party's theme and states that one of the main issues with the party is the way it's marketed. The letter argues that "the party...fetishizes prison sexual assault, a form of violence that primarily affects low-income people of color, particularly LGBTQ people." But what about sexual fetishes and preferences on a personal level? "While it is certainly appropriate for individuals to participate in scenes, or even larger events that explore prison fetishes, throwing a major event billed as the city's largest Pride party is inappropriate."
The Transgender Gender Variant, Intersex Justice Project also posted an open letter in response to the event. The letter is, most notably, signed by this year's SF Pride Grand Marshal, Miss Major. The letter states that it's not the kinkiness of the party that's an issue — it's the theme. "It's not that we don't love sex, sex parties, sex workers, and kink. It's that we love it as much as we love justice, and are appalled by the casual use of the Prison Industrial Complex."
(A protest march to the Armory during the party is planned by Gay Shame and others, Sat/28, 10pm, starting from the 16th St. BART station. More details at www.gayshamesf.org.)
Kink.com CEO Peter Acworth told the Guardian that his company tries to draw the line between reality and fantasy, sexual justice issues and sexual fantasies. He points out the structural differences between fantasy and reality and, in our interview, pointed out that BDSM has parameters to ensure that it's consensual: "The notion of consent is central in BDSM—that is, no one is held against their will, everything must be negotiated, there are safe words. None of that exists in actual prison."
In regards to the marketing issue, Acworth said that Kink is contractually bound to the theme and it's too late to order new costumes, sets, and props. The closest Acworth gets to saying whether or not the theme is appropriate is this statement: "Had I thought that a prison fantasy party would detract from the very serious issue of the prison industrial complex in this country, I would have insisted on another theme."